Sydney: Unfiltered - Latest Comments

Re: Confessions of an Addict

Missy Keough — Mon, 09 Apr 2012 10:30:18 -0000

YAHOOOEY!! So happy you're back up and at 'em. Now I'VE got a dopey grin on MY face!! Funny how emotional I get for you. Sometimes I wonder if you can hear me yelling "YEAH GIRL!!" from back here in the Midwest. Thank you for laying it all out there for us. We're with you all the way!!

Re: Gratitude: Unfiltered.

Sydney Owen — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 12:46:52 -0000

Let's party, sister. Get your 100-jump-wonder ass down to Elsinore. :)

Re: Gratitude: Unfiltered.

Sydney Owen — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 12:46:28 -0000

Thank you, Jamie! :)

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Mary Flannery — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 12:32:16 -0000

I don't even know you 9yet) Syd and I adore you. I'm sure we'll meet soon!!! mary

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Jamie Favreau — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 12:28:12 -0000

Congrats!!! Have fun!

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Savvy Scot — Mon, 05 Mar 2012 10:24:39 -0000

Haha this is brilliant :D

Re: Buy a pen, help me fly.

Sydney Owen — Fri, 02 Mar 2012 22:23:55 -0000

Totally glad you told the story because I probably would have botched it. LOVE YOU GIRL!

Re: Buy a pen, help me fly.

Missy Keough — Fri, 02 Mar 2012 09:44:33 -0000

I have to share the little story about the $100 towards your bills 'n stuff :)
SO...last weekend we went to the casino in Green Bay, WI (mainly because my husband was driving me up the wall, as he usually does this time of year). I dawdled around the crazy ass busy casino with no other goal than getting my husband at a blackjack table and out of my hair, then I would hit the bar. Turns out it was so totally busy there were no tables open for him. AARGH!!
After an hour of walking around and becoming more frustrated, I FINALLY pushed him into an empty seat at a table and I turned my frown upside down and said "Hit the slots. Any $$ extra winnings will be donated to Sydney's bill fund. YES! That is what I shall do." After an hour and a couple drinks later, I was failing at this task. I texted Sydney to let her know that I was trying and she said "Fail or no fail, I love your face" (or something like that). Not 10 minutes after I texted her...BAM. $152.50 on the slot machine, therefore giving me $97.50 in winnings which went right into the donation fund.
Just sayin' that Karma is completely real people. If you set out to do the right thing, you'll win every damn time.

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Julie Jones — Wed, 29 Feb 2012 18:38:44 -0000

Marriage is much more than a piece of paper or a ring any day. As long as you feel it in your heart, it is as real as if a judge or minister signed the license.

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Sydney Owen — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 13:01:19 -0000

Do you know me well or what?

I love your first point. I think the fact that people marry for the benefits and benefits alone is gross. I love that you didn't do that. I love that I've never thought about that.

I love your second point. I can't really argue with it. I scream from the roof tops about how much I love the boy. It's no secret. I can totally relate to the wanting to hold myself accountable thing, and I kind of do that on my own right now. I've never thought so deliberately about being a better person and making the best choices as I do with things that occur between me and the boy. I've always been told to think before I speak, and I didn't understand how to do that until I met him. Now I'm pretty damn good at it.

I love your third point. It makes total sense as to why people reacted like they did.

No fake pregnancies. Pinky swear. Kinda.

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Alan Kercinik — Sun, 19 Feb 2012 14:54:51 -0000

I don't know that I have much new to contribute to the conversation, but I will offer a couple of things:

-- You know how you are with the right person and your marriage will work? When you never once think about the legal benefits of marriage as you are about to go through it. Granted, we have needed my insurance for the wife and kids since we've been together, but thinking about that never entered my head. Ever.
-- You know how you will often post about things you are going to do or steps you want to take in your life as a way to hold you to them and have some kind of accountability? That's what marriage is. I am not saying that marriages are 'more serious' than long-term relationships of other kinds (see: Kardasian wedding), but I do know that when I was with Lara, I wanted my friends and family to see me, in public, tell everyone that this is the woman I was choosing to go through life with. Silly, cliche and sentimental? Maybe.
-- The people in your life, the ones who really care about you, want you to be happy. It would only stand to reason that they would react so strongly and immediately when it would appear that you were so settled and happy that it was causing you to want to do something that you never really thought it was for you. I said this to you in another place: when you are with the right person, marriage is for you, even if you have said that it isn't.

You're not an asshole. But if you have a fake pregnancy, we're going to have some serious words.

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Rachel M. Esterline — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 09:36:21 -0000

I always say that it's just a piece of paper too (other than getting the tax benefits, which would be nice). I never imagined myself getting married. My fiance and I (so, yes, I apparently will end up married) have been together since 2005, made it through a few long distance relationship periods because I moved away for college and then for internships. We bought a house together, have a car in both our names, etc. So, we're finally going to tie the knot even though I've felt like we were married for awhile.

And, we're doing it on a beach in a super casual ceremony. A friend of ours got ordained. I bought a white dress that I can probably pull off wearing after the wedding because it's so simple. And I told my fiance that he can wear American Eagle shorts (what he wears every day in the summer) and a light shirt. And, basically, I'm insisting on it being one big party with our family without most of the traditional crap that I never cared for.

I think it's great that you're honest about it. And, I think the hoax is hysterical.

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Sydney Owen — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 21:15:37 -0000

I can't wait to see you guys in April. That is all.

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Sydney Owen — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 21:08:23 -0000

First of all, I love that you put TM after The Boy. :)

Secondly, if we ever get to the point where marriage is a legit discussion, we definitely do have some role models to follow. And we have some that we want to avoid like the plague.

Your questions are interesting. And I think that's the most intriguing part of this whole thing. One of my close friends from college said congrats on the post, then congrats in an email today, then when I said "it was a joke" she was all OH THAT MAKES SO MUCH MORE SENSE because since she's known me, I've always treated the whole marriage thing like it's no big deal, so to see the engagement thing on Facebook totally confused her.

I guess joking about it is our way of dealing with the occasional odd stare we get when people accidentally call me his wife (because they assume that we're married already) and the uncomfortable silence that follows. Or maybe it is our way of avoiding the topic that we've already talked in depth about... not sure.

But, after we joke, I always say the same thing: "If you ever asked me to marry you, I'd say yes." Because I don't want him to think that because it's not a huge priority for me, that I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life with him, as if him asking me to marry him was the only indicator of that feeling for him. The last thing I want is for there to be a miscommunication about how much I love him. And he knows how much I love him. :)

I'm skeptical about your chocolates. I might need you to send us more to confirm my love for those as well. ;)

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Sydney Owen — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 21:01:24 -0000

LOL Jess you kill me. I only got one phone call and that was from my boss. He was all "REALLY?" and his wife was wailing in the background about how excited she was but sad that they found out on Facebook. Then I said it was a joke. And more wailing. I said "IF we ever get engaged, I'll call you. And in all honesty, you'll probably be the first to find out via phone because everyone I'd call before you, like my family, is on the east coast and would probably already be sleeping."

And a story for the books, indeed. Thanks for stopping by! :)

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

David Williams — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 20:09:44 -0000

What is all this yap yap about happiness?? :) BTW We have set up
meetings to plan how to punk you two back.

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Andrew Metcalfe — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 18:25:55 -0000

There's two kinds of people - those who think Marriage is a ceremony, and those who think it's a lifetime. For Piriya and me, it's entirely the latter. (The extent of our ceremony was 15 minutes with a judge). Enough about me, though. To get back on point, those two kinds of people - those really are the only two kinds. There's no third kind. There's no kind that thinks marriage isn't about anything. It's always about something. It always is something.

There's nobody out there who thinks marriage doesn't have some kind of meaning. And that's why people take this stuff seriously, because even if some of us knew you were joking, we knew you were joking about something important.

That said, I am curious a bit why marriage is a punch-line. Why is it so ridiculous that some of us knew right off the bat? Why is it so ridiculous that you thought it'd be fun in the first place?

What is it about you, about The Boy™ that makes the thought so ridiculous? Does joking about it make it less of a poignant question?

And no, I don't expect answers to my barrage of awkward questions. But it is interesting. You've got plenty of people around showing that marriages can be quite happy, even got some great role models to follow. So follow? Or not.

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Jess Ostroff — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 17:01:58 -0000

It's an interesting testament to the way people report and respond to news like this. Did you get any frantic phone calls or texts? I wouldn't expect anyone to think that an announcement like that would be a hoax, especially since everyone clearly knows you're in love and believes that you're good together and it sounds like none of it was really a surprise anyway! If we were friends, I might have been upset if you weren't as light-hearted and clearly silly about it. Like, if you had been like GOD YOU GUYS ARE SO STUPID! Instead oh hey! Got ya! And I like that you posted about it too, because marriage can be such a ridiculous thing in my opinion when you see couples who hate each other go through with it, and couples who are madly in love don't. I think it's nice when people get married, but at the end of the day that's not the most important thing and shouldn't really matter at all, which is what you illustrated in this whole experiment, whether it was intentional or not! I love it. I'm only worried about what will happen when you actually DO get engaged, but this will be a story for the books in your relationship forever, indeed :)

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Sydney Owen — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 16:44:34 -0000

You are awesome. We love you. That is all. :)

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Missy Keough — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:45:25 -0000

First off, I want to thank Ashley for her post. I'm married 3 years, but we've been together for 15 years (HOLY SHIT). It's been awhile since I've thought about marriage (without complaining about it) and Ashley really opened up my heart on her post. So thank you Ashley for that.
Secondly...I like that you two mess with us every now and again. And after every hoax, I'll be even more excited than the last! You both have been posting nothing but happy HAppy HAPPY since arriving in Cali so I figured "this could be it!". We're happy for you either way. Marriage is a happy, exciting thing (for the most part. Don't listen to me talk about marriage though. Listen to Ashley ;)) and a next chapter in life, so it seemed like the timing was right because of the Cali life force stuff happenin'.
PS - you guys are assholes.
;p

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Marta Williams — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:44:50 -0000

Well rarely have two people belonged together more than you and Barry---under whatever relationship category. LOVEYOUMISSYOUMEANIT TOO. I'm going to ping you on a FB message about coming to Cali. kbye.

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Sydney Owen — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:29:11 -0000

Marta, I wouldn't be surprised if our relationship goes similarly to how you and Dave evolved. At some point we'll stop jumping. At some point, we'll stop bouncing around from DZ to DZ, find a place to call home, and "settle down" there. And maybe that will be Austin. We really like Austin. I'm not ruling it out. I just know that there is nobody else in the world that I'd rather share this journey with, wed or unwed. :) LOVE YOU MISS YOU MEAN IT!

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Sydney Owen — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:26:04 -0000

Having been on the sidelines when you guys were planning stuff and doing it your way, I remember you battling with the planning of the wedding as much as the concept of marriage itself. And now look at you, all pretty with pictures and a dress and you did things the way you wanted to. I can tell you this much, if we ever go down that road, I'm sure as shit not letting someone else dictate how the ceremony goes. It's funny - if you aren't married, people ask you why. If you're getting married, everyone has an opinion about what your wedding is like. If you're married without kids, people ask when you're squeezing out little Ashleys. I guess it's always something. :)

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

ashleymead — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:23:49 -0000

I'm always here...even if I'm just lurking :). And who knows, one day when 3Ring is craptacular successful insurance will work in your favor and you two can live happily ever after in marriage bliss. Just don't EVER let anyone talk you into a silly wedding you don't want...do it your way and you'll be so thrilled!

Re: Love is funny. And I’m not engaged.

Marta Williams — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:19:26 -0000

@ashleymead----you took the exact words out of my mouth. Exact. My husband and I don't have children (and won't) and it sounds like maybe you and your husband don't have kids either. People always ask why couples who don't want or can't have children would feel the need to get married. In addition to the financial and legal benefits afforded us as a married couple, there's the intangible of becoming a little "family unit". It's what those who oppose gay marriage just don't get. Anyway Syd, it took Dave and me 9 years together to tie the knot so if you ever do change your tune, it could be a long way down the road.